Now pause a moment and notice what you’re thinking. Notice any reflex to dismiss easy answers, I’ve read all this before. Notice any habitual inner voice that says, I’ve tried all this and never stick to it. Notice rationalization and discomfort triggered by thoughts of changing lifestyle, breaking habits, or overcoming inertia. Let go of those undermining mental reactions as best as you’re able. Then realign yourself with your own best intentions for the year. Here are some reminders for how to do that.
Technology is just a tool to be used well or poorly. Bonding with someone you know directly, even online, keeps you strong. However, social media provide only a momentary buzz that can lead to jealousy, anxiety, and poor self-esteem. Quit apps when you can, and otherwise commit to time-limited check-ins with people you know. Put down your device often and focus on real people instead.
Paying attention to what’s going on while it’s happening correlates with happiness. Doomscrolling sucks our attention into reactivity and fear. Give full attention to positive moments, both because it’s enjoyable and because immersing yourself in them has intrinsic value.
Medically speaking, there is no healthy sedentary lifestyle. Our body requires exercise both physically and emotionally. No one should be judged for their body type, and yet everyone has to move. The idea that exercise is optional is a modern myth.
Like a muscle, how you treat your brain changes it, based on a process called “neuroplasticity.” Spend all your time distracted, stressed, and fearful, and habits related to that lifestyle become hardwired. Setting aside time for beneficial activities—like sleeping enough, reading, offline hobbies, or practicing mindfulness—solidifies stronger tendencies instead.
The science of happiness shows clearly that acquiring stuff cannot keep us happy. It’s a false idol. Each purchase or shiny light on our phone instantly passes, leaving us craving more. Enjoy whatever you enjoy. But whenever you catch yourself craving quick fixes, use that moment of proactive awareness to realign yourself with what actually works.